Tuesday, May 28, 2013 3:35 PM

Should Christians Date Muslims?

Tuesday, May 28, 2013 3:35 PM
Tuesday, May 28, 2013 3:35 PM

She’s a young single Christian. She wants a good man. Good men are hard to find. A man who meets all her criteria - save one - has approached her. He is not a Christian. He is a Muslim. The other week I received an email from this female member of our church. In it she wanted to know if dating a Muslim was harmless. I applaud her for caring enough, sensing the tension, and reaching out to her pastor for insight.


I rarely share inside conversations, but I think this one may be helpful to others. This post is particularly sensitive to my heart because another dear sister at our church is married to a Muslim man. He is a compassionate, gentle, and faithful husband/father. Although he is Muslim he accompanies his family to church just about every Sunday. He’s a good dude! I am praying still – even as I write this – that the Lord Jesus sensitize his heart to the gospel.


In the email I received she posed 3 basic questions which I outline here almost exactly as she presented them: 1) Is being a Muslim really wrong? 2) Don’t Christians and Muslims worship the same God? 3) What’s the big deal about a Christian dating a Muslim?



Here is what you should know.

1) Is being a Muslim really wrong?

The simple answer is that anyone who rejects Jesus Christ as the Son of God and Savior of the world is wrong.



2) Do Christians and Muslims worship the same God?

No we don't. The question can be better posed like this: 'Is the Father of Jesus the God of Muhammad?' With all due respect - and I think some Muslims would agree with me – the answer to that question is no. The fundamental issue is that Jesus taught that anyone who rejected Him rejected His father. The Scriptures teach that from the Beginning, God's son is one with Him (John 1). For this reason a basic rejection of the divinity of the historical Jesus Christ is a basic rejection of God the Father. Most Muslims are cool with ascribing 'Prophet' status to Jesus, but would never ascribe 'Son of God' or 'Divine' status to Jesus Christ.



3) What about a Christian dating a Muslim?

Dating is serious. It could lead to marriage. The heart is no simple engine either. It develops meaningful and profound attachments. For this reason, since a Christian and a Muslim are spiritually incompatible, they shouldn't date. This is not a rejection of a Muslim as a dating partner no more than it is a rejection of any non-Christian as a dating partner. The Bible teaches us not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers (2nd Corinthians 6:14). Specifically in the context of marriage, unlike a contractual business deal, the yoking is severe. Given the implications of the imagery, one ox pulling one way while yoked with the other oxen pulling another way creates lasting tension. When a Christian dates a Muslim they are volunteering for that tension, and they make themselves vulnerable to unbelief. 

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